If you and your partner both think you’d like to go through a pregnancy, there are many things to consider – in terms of your respective fertility, and other important lifestyle and readiness considerations (e.g. who can best afford to take time away from work for a maternity leave; who has more time from a fertility window perspective; etc.). Your doctor should be able to assess the fertility issue. See these sections to learn how to address the issues of readiness, timing and decision making.
Some lesbian couples who use donor sperm want to ensure that their children are related to both members of the couple. If this is important to you and your partner, you may want to consider going through IVF and having the embryos produced with your eggs and the donor sperm, transferred to your partner’s uterus. This would make you the genetic mother and your partner the social mother of your child(ren). You may want to check out the question on IVF in our Assisted Reproduction section and on donor sperm in our Third Party Options section.
Find out more about LGBT parenting options at:
In Canada, egg donation and surrogacy are legal but the “purchase” of these products/services is not permitted. However, reimbursement of egg donor and surrogate’s out of pocket expenses related to the donation is permitted. There are also important legal implications of surrogacy. Clinics in Canada generally require a surrogacy agreement created through a lawyer.
You can find out more about the Canadian legal implications of using donor eggs, sperm or surrogacy here.
There are also fertility clinics internationally that offer services to gay males and couples including egg donation and surrogacy. Regulations and standards for clinics across countries differ. If you are going this route, do your research so that you can make an informed choice about the best option for you.
You may also consider adoption or foster parenting to expand your family. Start by contacting your local social services for information on adoption and foster parenting.
Read more about local and international adoption:
For more information about adoption in Canada, check out the Adoptive Parents site.
For information about international adoption for Canadians, click here.
For general information about adoption, including a section on international adoption, check out this site.
These sites may be useful in considering your options: